So I had my first 5k race this Saturday... I spent it sitting on my butt playing with some children while I watched the sweaty people cross the finish line. I was living life to the fullest, man! What happened, you ask? Why didn't I run in the race I've been looking forward to for the last couple months?
I fell off a chair and sprained my ankle.
No, really. I was trying to paint my room blue and I fell of a chair and sprained my ankle. My lovely friend Stitch came down to run with me, so I tagged along to cheer for her and whine about the state of my ankles. I continue to whine. My ankle -hurts- and I can't run on it. I'm not even allowed to bike on it. <_< Damn trained medics around me all the time, I swear.
Mind you, I've been running a 5k 5 times a week for the few weeks, at about a 32 minute pace (I'm slow) so it wasn't going to be a big accomplishment to run in the race... It was just a milestone marker for me. I set the 5k race as my goal and aimed for it... Then fell flat, through no fault of my own. Bugger. And, I'm on the sidelines for the next week or so while my ankle gets with the program, so I'm going to lose some fitness here. And it'll probably impact my losing weight and running like a bunny plan... But, nerf. What're you going to do? As soon as my ankle's back up I'll start running again and a couple weeks after that, I'll find myself a nice charity 5k to go rabbit in. 5k now, 10k by December! ^_^
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Running... Running... NOT RUNNING!
I've been having weird runs lately... I finished up the running schedule a couple weeks ago when I discovered it was too bloody easy. I tweaked it by running the required time and then doing a couple minute walk and adding a second several minute run... And that's what I've pretty much been doing lately - running for aditional times and shortening my walking time each week. It's gone pretty well. I'm now consistantly running more than 3 miles, 5-6 times a week and I'm dropping weight pretty fast (14.6 lbs as of last week. Weigh-in isn't until tomorrow, but my boobs are smaller than they've ever been and not a single article of clothing in my closet fits. So I think I'm doing pretty good). I've virtually quit drinking pop now, I only have one or two a week when I really feel like it and 80% of the time I find the taste fairly foul. I drink water, I eat fruits like candy and I've learned to cook a few things reliably, if not well. So you know, I've been rocking. I add light biking trips to the store to my weekly exercise now, in an attempt to increase my biking strength and get ready for biking to work regularly, and when I'm at Adam's place I like to steal a couple of sessions in his complex's surprisingly nice gym...
So basically, what I'm saying, is I've been rocking out the diet and exercise.
But I've had some weird runs. Sometimes I go out and I have to fight just to meet my 3.18 mile goal... and somedays, like last Friday, I can go out and jog for an hour with just a couple of walking breathers. (*flex* Oh yeah! Admire the strength of my legs and lungs!) It all depends on how well I've eaten and how much I've slept and whether I've drunk enough water, no kidding.
Last night was an awesome running day. I got outside at a little past midnight, hurting and sore from head to toe from a weekend full of larping and the first 12-13 minutes of running sucked. I wanted to stop running and slink home with my tail between my legs... But by the 18 minute point, I was eating up ground in a smooth, effortless gait. I was Arienna the Bunny, rabbiting down the street with my ponytail swinging allegro, dressed in clever runner's shorts and an actual tank top that, no kidding, revealed my arms and the shape of my figure.
I was feeling like hot stuff and after another few minutes I'd settled into what I consider my distance running mind-set - all I was thinking was "Run... run... run... run..."
Until something abruptly grabbed my ankle and gave it a yank. I hopped with my other foot in an attempt to get high enough to go over whatever I'd just got caught on but, alas, that only sent airborne, with my ankle still being yanked out from under me. Time froze while I hung in the air, one hand clutching an ipod and one hand holding my cell phone (Safety, yo). I recall making the rational decision that I would probably heal faster than I'd get around to replacing either of my toys so I didn't throw down my hands to catch my fall, I landed curling to protect my devices and hit the side of my knee first. The fall barked a lot of skin off my knee but my hips and legs were protected by the clever, highly scientific material of my shorts. Being an ex-gymnast and a once-martial artist, I was tucked and rolling so my hurts from the landing were superficial, skin-deep only...
Unfortunately, I was tucked and rolling to absorb kinetic energy and impact so I tucked and rolled just enough to crack my head on a loose piece of pavement. I lay there for a few moments, spitting sand and swearing before I stood up and looked for the cruel impliment of chaos that had disrupted my run... And discovered some complete bugger had stretched a trip-wire across the pavement. No kidding. There was a length of twine stretched across the sidewalk at exactly ankle height. Had it not been 1 am at this point I would have probably marched to the nearest house and delivered my opinion at high volume... But it -was- 1 am and I'd have just as likely gotten my butt shot off but anyone crazy enough to lay a trip-wire across a sidewalk.
So I kicked the errant rock that had tried and failed to concuss me and finished my run.
I'm hardcore like that. ^_~
So basically, what I'm saying, is I've been rocking out the diet and exercise.
But I've had some weird runs. Sometimes I go out and I have to fight just to meet my 3.18 mile goal... and somedays, like last Friday, I can go out and jog for an hour with just a couple of walking breathers. (*flex* Oh yeah! Admire the strength of my legs and lungs!) It all depends on how well I've eaten and how much I've slept and whether I've drunk enough water, no kidding.
Last night was an awesome running day. I got outside at a little past midnight, hurting and sore from head to toe from a weekend full of larping and the first 12-13 minutes of running sucked. I wanted to stop running and slink home with my tail between my legs... But by the 18 minute point, I was eating up ground in a smooth, effortless gait. I was Arienna the Bunny, rabbiting down the street with my ponytail swinging allegro, dressed in clever runner's shorts and an actual tank top that, no kidding, revealed my arms and the shape of my figure.
I was feeling like hot stuff and after another few minutes I'd settled into what I consider my distance running mind-set - all I was thinking was "Run... run... run... run..."
Until something abruptly grabbed my ankle and gave it a yank. I hopped with my other foot in an attempt to get high enough to go over whatever I'd just got caught on but, alas, that only sent airborne, with my ankle still being yanked out from under me. Time froze while I hung in the air, one hand clutching an ipod and one hand holding my cell phone (Safety, yo). I recall making the rational decision that I would probably heal faster than I'd get around to replacing either of my toys so I didn't throw down my hands to catch my fall, I landed curling to protect my devices and hit the side of my knee first. The fall barked a lot of skin off my knee but my hips and legs were protected by the clever, highly scientific material of my shorts. Being an ex-gymnast and a once-martial artist, I was tucked and rolling so my hurts from the landing were superficial, skin-deep only...
Unfortunately, I was tucked and rolling to absorb kinetic energy and impact so I tucked and rolled just enough to crack my head on a loose piece of pavement. I lay there for a few moments, spitting sand and swearing before I stood up and looked for the cruel impliment of chaos that had disrupted my run... And discovered some complete bugger had stretched a trip-wire across the pavement. No kidding. There was a length of twine stretched across the sidewalk at exactly ankle height. Had it not been 1 am at this point I would have probably marched to the nearest house and delivered my opinion at high volume... But it -was- 1 am and I'd have just as likely gotten my butt shot off but anyone crazy enough to lay a trip-wire across a sidewalk.
So I kicked the errant rock that had tried and failed to concuss me and finished my run.
I'm hardcore like that. ^_~
Monday, April 20, 2009
Week 11, Day 1
Well I dutifully did five days of week 10 plus a little bit of work on an elliptical trainer last week and I felt pretty good about it. I steadily did about 2.85 miles every run and every run, I trimmed a little time off how long it took me to do it. So it was a good week last week, in terms of running. I worked hard, I did my thing, and I think I got good stuff out of it. Wednesday morning is weigh-in so we'll see. ^_^ Hopefully I'll get a pleasant surprise.. I could really, really use one.
This week is Week 11... Which is the week that's finally pushed me over 3 miles. I did 3.10 miles a few minutes ago. :) 3.10 -slow- miles but nevertheless I did a 5k so I know I can do it. For now on it's all about doing a 5k in less time (while lengthening the time i spend running every week, you know how it goes). Today -sucked-. The first day of a new week always sucks a little because I add two minutes to my running time - I start out with no idea how far or long I'm gonna be running so my times and pace are always all messed up. Aaaaand I may or may not have screwed up my nutrition and barely eaten 1000 calories a day for the last... three days or so. It turns out? If you don't get enough calories, carbs, fats, and proteins, this running harder stuff -sucks-. I rolled in today feeling sweaty, tired, and pretty damn nauseous. So take a note Gladys, Arienna needs to -eat-.
I had a long weekend. I'm dealing with.. some stuff right now. It was the weekend of long conversations. Long conversations with Adam, long conversations with Trent, the man I meant to marry... Long conversations all over the place. I don't really wanna explain the background.. I've been running away from the background for the last 8 months and I'm still not... I haven't dealt with it. I have to deal with it in order to remain on speaking terms with myself, but that's gonna take a little while.
The end result of all the talking and crying is I'm going to start taking some time away from Adam. I know he cares about me and that I'm important to him, he says he loves me and I believe him. But he also said, very clearly, that he's just plain not in love with me. And I no longer know what I want or who I am. So I'm going to spend some time alone, get to know myself, and see who I am these days and whether or not I can stand myself...
Strangely enough, even though I'm feeling pretty wasted and miserable, I'm getting all kinds of productive. I started taking the steps necessary to fix some of the problems in my life today and... I applied at the local community college.
No really, I did!
Tomorrow I gotta call and have my transcripts sent over so that's a bit of a drag, but with a little luck I'll get enrolled and registered before May 8th and I'll be able to sign up for summer classes. I'm excited. It's only community college, but still. No more being a 24 year old college drop out. I'm gonna go back, I'm going to pick a damn major, and I'm going to get a degree, dangit.
This week is Week 11... Which is the week that's finally pushed me over 3 miles. I did 3.10 miles a few minutes ago. :) 3.10 -slow- miles but nevertheless I did a 5k so I know I can do it. For now on it's all about doing a 5k in less time (while lengthening the time i spend running every week, you know how it goes). Today -sucked-. The first day of a new week always sucks a little because I add two minutes to my running time - I start out with no idea how far or long I'm gonna be running so my times and pace are always all messed up. Aaaaand I may or may not have screwed up my nutrition and barely eaten 1000 calories a day for the last... three days or so. It turns out? If you don't get enough calories, carbs, fats, and proteins, this running harder stuff -sucks-. I rolled in today feeling sweaty, tired, and pretty damn nauseous. So take a note Gladys, Arienna needs to -eat-.
I had a long weekend. I'm dealing with.. some stuff right now. It was the weekend of long conversations. Long conversations with Adam, long conversations with Trent, the man I meant to marry... Long conversations all over the place. I don't really wanna explain the background.. I've been running away from the background for the last 8 months and I'm still not... I haven't dealt with it. I have to deal with it in order to remain on speaking terms with myself, but that's gonna take a little while.
The end result of all the talking and crying is I'm going to start taking some time away from Adam. I know he cares about me and that I'm important to him, he says he loves me and I believe him. But he also said, very clearly, that he's just plain not in love with me. And I no longer know what I want or who I am. So I'm going to spend some time alone, get to know myself, and see who I am these days and whether or not I can stand myself...
Strangely enough, even though I'm feeling pretty wasted and miserable, I'm getting all kinds of productive. I started taking the steps necessary to fix some of the problems in my life today and... I applied at the local community college.
No really, I did!
Tomorrow I gotta call and have my transcripts sent over so that's a bit of a drag, but with a little luck I'll get enrolled and registered before May 8th and I'll be able to sign up for summer classes. I'm excited. It's only community college, but still. No more being a 24 year old college drop out. I'm gonna go back, I'm going to pick a damn major, and I'm going to get a degree, dangit.
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
So Long Week 9, Long Live Week 10!
Sheesh, where have I been?
I was so busy living Week 9, I didn't have time to write about it. Does that sound funny? This whole thing takes up lots of time out of my day that I never really noticed was there. I have to wake up early and eat. I have to pack my lunch, I have to go to work. When I get home from work, I have to cook dinner and then I have to eat. And then after an hour or two to digest, I have to run. And then I have to relax for an hour or two and then I have to go to bed so I can get 8 hours of sleep so I can get up and go through my whole day with energy and then go running again the next day.
Grocery shopping too has started to take up more time. I can no longer do ninja raids on the aisles full of my old favourites - I spend my time at the store wandering around getting into everything and reading all the labels. Adding things up and subtracting and then reading the ingrediants 'cause there's several things I plain don't eat anymore (partially hydrogenated soybeans, no more! So long white flour, hello whole grains. Alas, sweetie fries I loved you). Grocery shopping has become an Event, where in I fondle all the food, imagine what I'm going to eat, how I could fix this, and ultimately subtract and divide until I get the calories per gram of protein and dismiss half the things in my cart as simply not packing enough umph for me. Go figure.
Protein is surprisingly difficult for me to get and I need -lots- of it. A couple of meat meals a day barely suffices and takes time to create and arrange. I'm eyeing adding some nuts into my snacking but then I'll have to do the protein over fat math. Speaking of which, I eat a -lot- now. Every couple of hours without fail, my stomach starts growling and I have to feed it an apple or a bundle of grapes or a chicken breast or the neighbor's kid... It's endless.
But I've lost 9.6 lbs since that fateful day (March 24th) when I bought a scale, yelped, and settled down to take a serious look at my eating habits. I have not had more than a single class of diet coke in weeks, I drink 8 glasses of water a day, and I feel pretty good.
Let's talk about running. ^_^ Last week was a big week in my running schedule because I went from running 9 minutes, walking 4, running 9 more minutes to running 13 minutes straight. Woots. I was a little worried about it but when I went out it was -way- easier than I expected. Too easy. I had to take on couple minutes of walking and then another 6 minute running set because I gotta get my 30 minutes in. :D
Last night I ran 2.7 miles, which is a personal best. In a couple of months, I'm planning on signing up for a 5k (3 miles) and doing my first organized race ever. I'm dragging Adam and all the people who love me out so they can wave flags and cheer for me when I cross the finish line - slow, sweaty, but -there-. ^_^ After that, 10k! And come February there's an 8 mile trail run at one of the prettier mountains here in NC that I'm thinking of signing up for, to give me something to aim for.
Think I can do it? ^_~
I was so busy living Week 9, I didn't have time to write about it. Does that sound funny? This whole thing takes up lots of time out of my day that I never really noticed was there. I have to wake up early and eat. I have to pack my lunch, I have to go to work. When I get home from work, I have to cook dinner and then I have to eat. And then after an hour or two to digest, I have to run. And then I have to relax for an hour or two and then I have to go to bed so I can get 8 hours of sleep so I can get up and go through my whole day with energy and then go running again the next day.
Grocery shopping too has started to take up more time. I can no longer do ninja raids on the aisles full of my old favourites - I spend my time at the store wandering around getting into everything and reading all the labels. Adding things up and subtracting and then reading the ingrediants 'cause there's several things I plain don't eat anymore (partially hydrogenated soybeans, no more! So long white flour, hello whole grains. Alas, sweetie fries I loved you). Grocery shopping has become an Event, where in I fondle all the food, imagine what I'm going to eat, how I could fix this, and ultimately subtract and divide until I get the calories per gram of protein and dismiss half the things in my cart as simply not packing enough umph for me. Go figure.
Protein is surprisingly difficult for me to get and I need -lots- of it. A couple of meat meals a day barely suffices and takes time to create and arrange. I'm eyeing adding some nuts into my snacking but then I'll have to do the protein over fat math. Speaking of which, I eat a -lot- now. Every couple of hours without fail, my stomach starts growling and I have to feed it an apple or a bundle of grapes or a chicken breast or the neighbor's kid... It's endless.
But I've lost 9.6 lbs since that fateful day (March 24th) when I bought a scale, yelped, and settled down to take a serious look at my eating habits. I have not had more than a single class of diet coke in weeks, I drink 8 glasses of water a day, and I feel pretty good.
Let's talk about running. ^_^ Last week was a big week in my running schedule because I went from running 9 minutes, walking 4, running 9 more minutes to running 13 minutes straight. Woots. I was a little worried about it but when I went out it was -way- easier than I expected. Too easy. I had to take on couple minutes of walking and then another 6 minute running set because I gotta get my 30 minutes in. :D
Last night I ran 2.7 miles, which is a personal best. In a couple of months, I'm planning on signing up for a 5k (3 miles) and doing my first organized race ever. I'm dragging Adam and all the people who love me out so they can wave flags and cheer for me when I cross the finish line - slow, sweaty, but -there-. ^_^ After that, 10k! And come February there's an 8 mile trail run at one of the prettier mountains here in NC that I'm thinking of signing up for, to give me something to aim for.
Think I can do it? ^_~
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Week 8 (Hell Yeah!)
I came home crying from my run today.
This isn't unusual for me. Running sucks and I'm not good at it and I have a peculiar blend of willpower, self-disgust, and enthusiasm that's kept me at it for months now. There have been many days where I have come home crying or fallen onto the floor, pressed my face into the carpet, and cried like a little girl until I was dry.
This isn't necessarily a cause for concern. I cry a lot. It alarmed my father the first several times he caught me at it, crying through soccer, trying through a hard karate class, crying hysterically as I tried to make my way up a climbing wall (little known fact - I'm afraid of climbing. Not -heights-, climbing. Ladders scare me witless, but I'll spend all day on a roof, completely at ease). After awhile, he came to the conclusion that crying was just something I do. When my body or spirit reaches a certain level of stress, it starts to cry to leak tension. "What no one else gets," my father once said. "Is that you crying isn't you giving up. From what I've seen when you start crying is when you're really digging against something."
So I've cried a lot. I've cried because I'm not good at it, I've cried 'cause it hurt. I've cried because every time I feel bad about myself I go running and running doesn't make the hurt go away. I've cried because I haven't seen results and I've cried because I can't quit this and still respect myself. I'm backed up against a wall with no way out that'll let me continue being me.
Today was the first time in my entire life I came home crying from sheer joy and pride.
I went out yesterday and I did day one of week 8 which involves 18 minutes of running, with a warm-up, a cool-down and a brief breather in the middle. This doesn't sound like a lot and it's not but you must remember that in January I was hard pressed to run 5 minutes without choking up a lung. So I went out today and I ran again and when I got to the end of my first 9 minute span, I kept going. I ran to ten minutes and I nodded my head, gave myself a pat on the back and grimly prepared for the second set that was now going to hurt much worse than I expected. And it did. I considered stopping at 8 minutes 'cause I'd already banked an extra, but I kept going, counting down the last minute in ten second intervals. And then.. I kept going. I ran a little over 10 minutes for my second set and I walked my 5 minute cool down and I thought about it.
Three months ago, I couldn't do that. Three months ago I couldn't make myself run the whole way through a song. But lookit me. I did it. I started running today and my pace was smooth and even and my little ponytail swung back and forth in smooth, steady metranome. My feet hit the pavement steady and my form was good. My pace didn't flag and my lungs didn't burn or scream. For the first time that I can ever remember I wrapped my arms around myself and I danced home saying, 'I love you'. Today I loved my body. Even though it's short and still chubby and not yet particularly athletic, today I feel like I can do it. I can keep running tomorrow and the day after and two weeks from now. And a month from now I'm going to be struggling through a route and I'm going to say "Remember when you could barely get through 20 minutes? -Now- lookit you. You can -do- this."
When I got home, I wiped my face off and hopped on my bike and cruised up and down the street for awhile, just full of joy and delight at the strength of my legs and lungs. By this time next year? I'm gonna run a 10k.
This isn't unusual for me. Running sucks and I'm not good at it and I have a peculiar blend of willpower, self-disgust, and enthusiasm that's kept me at it for months now. There have been many days where I have come home crying or fallen onto the floor, pressed my face into the carpet, and cried like a little girl until I was dry.
This isn't necessarily a cause for concern. I cry a lot. It alarmed my father the first several times he caught me at it, crying through soccer, trying through a hard karate class, crying hysterically as I tried to make my way up a climbing wall (little known fact - I'm afraid of climbing. Not -heights-, climbing. Ladders scare me witless, but I'll spend all day on a roof, completely at ease). After awhile, he came to the conclusion that crying was just something I do. When my body or spirit reaches a certain level of stress, it starts to cry to leak tension. "What no one else gets," my father once said. "Is that you crying isn't you giving up. From what I've seen when you start crying is when you're really digging against something."
So I've cried a lot. I've cried because I'm not good at it, I've cried 'cause it hurt. I've cried because every time I feel bad about myself I go running and running doesn't make the hurt go away. I've cried because I haven't seen results and I've cried because I can't quit this and still respect myself. I'm backed up against a wall with no way out that'll let me continue being me.
Today was the first time in my entire life I came home crying from sheer joy and pride.
I went out yesterday and I did day one of week 8 which involves 18 minutes of running, with a warm-up, a cool-down and a brief breather in the middle. This doesn't sound like a lot and it's not but you must remember that in January I was hard pressed to run 5 minutes without choking up a lung. So I went out today and I ran again and when I got to the end of my first 9 minute span, I kept going. I ran to ten minutes and I nodded my head, gave myself a pat on the back and grimly prepared for the second set that was now going to hurt much worse than I expected. And it did. I considered stopping at 8 minutes 'cause I'd already banked an extra, but I kept going, counting down the last minute in ten second intervals. And then.. I kept going. I ran a little over 10 minutes for my second set and I walked my 5 minute cool down and I thought about it.
Three months ago, I couldn't do that. Three months ago I couldn't make myself run the whole way through a song. But lookit me. I did it. I started running today and my pace was smooth and even and my little ponytail swung back and forth in smooth, steady metranome. My feet hit the pavement steady and my form was good. My pace didn't flag and my lungs didn't burn or scream. For the first time that I can ever remember I wrapped my arms around myself and I danced home saying, 'I love you'. Today I loved my body. Even though it's short and still chubby and not yet particularly athletic, today I feel like I can do it. I can keep running tomorrow and the day after and two weeks from now. And a month from now I'm going to be struggling through a route and I'm going to say "Remember when you could barely get through 20 minutes? -Now- lookit you. You can -do- this."
When I got home, I wiped my face off and hopped on my bike and cruised up and down the street for awhile, just full of joy and delight at the strength of my legs and lungs. By this time next year? I'm gonna run a 10k.
Monday, March 23, 2009
My life gets a little surreal sometimes...
I like to go to the grocery store every day or two. When I buy $60 worth of groceries meant to last a couple weeks, I always eat all the good stuff immediately and leave the rest rotting in the cupboards, while I eat Wendy's. ^_^; Bad juju. So instead I like to wander up to the store with my little shopping basket and pick out things that look good and tasty for the next few meals. It's probably not very cost effective nor is it very time effective, but a walk in the sunshine's kinda nice and not having a fridge full of rotting fruit is always good. Now one of the annoying things about going grocery shopping, especially when I only buy a little basket of stuff, is I look like a teenager. Almost every single time I go, as I start putting my purchases on the conveyor belt behind some adult looking person, the cashier asks the adult, "Is this together?" Because I look like a teenager and clearly, can not be a grown adult buying my own food.
Today this got way more interesting. I went to the store and bought some salad mix and a couple of pot pies and some jello pudding mix and some graham crackers and a bottle of diet coke and some juice. Laden with goodies, I sidled up to the queue and waited patiently for my turn. I was behind a woman an her husband, who were showing the cashier pictures from their daughter's wedding... But I was in no hurry so I didn't fuss or tap my foot, I just waited and piled my stuff up behind a little dividing strip on the conveyor belt... And when my turn finally came up the cashier turned to the man and asked, "Is this together?" And I said "Nope, that's all mine." and I turned to the fellow, gave him a smile and told him I'm hoping that in another 10 years or so, people will expect me to pay for my own. 'cause, you know, I'll look like a grown-up by then.
I paid for my groceries and I was headed out the store when the fellow from the line called out to me. He'd been waiting for me to finish and as I turned to him, he said. "I started to pay for your groceries and I felt like I should. I felt like the lord was moving that way. Should I have?'
Well I thanked him politely and denied and wandered off to my car. And I guess it was a nice gesture but it was kinda weird too. None of my clothes had holes in them, I'd actually washed my hair before going out. I was clean and dressed, and cheerful - definitely not the image of a needy person, right? I mean, unless I'm sending out poor starving waif vibes without knowing it. Maybe next time I'll toss more junk food in. ^_~
Today this got way more interesting. I went to the store and bought some salad mix and a couple of pot pies and some jello pudding mix and some graham crackers and a bottle of diet coke and some juice. Laden with goodies, I sidled up to the queue and waited patiently for my turn. I was behind a woman an her husband, who were showing the cashier pictures from their daughter's wedding... But I was in no hurry so I didn't fuss or tap my foot, I just waited and piled my stuff up behind a little dividing strip on the conveyor belt... And when my turn finally came up the cashier turned to the man and asked, "Is this together?" And I said "Nope, that's all mine." and I turned to the fellow, gave him a smile and told him I'm hoping that in another 10 years or so, people will expect me to pay for my own. 'cause, you know, I'll look like a grown-up by then.
I paid for my groceries and I was headed out the store when the fellow from the line called out to me. He'd been waiting for me to finish and as I turned to him, he said. "I started to pay for your groceries and I felt like I should. I felt like the lord was moving that way. Should I have?'
Well I thanked him politely and denied and wandered off to my car. And I guess it was a nice gesture but it was kinda weird too. None of my clothes had holes in them, I'd actually washed my hair before going out. I was clean and dressed, and cheerful - definitely not the image of a needy person, right? I mean, unless I'm sending out poor starving waif vibes without knowing it. Maybe next time I'll toss more junk food in. ^_~
Week 6 (Again)
After the stress fracture debacle I was reluctant to run too much on my wounded foot and after having had a really -bad- week 6 last week... I took the early part of the week off to whine about my foot and got in a couple more days of week 6 this week. The last couple runs were successful. Much less "oh my god, I'm going to die", more "Man this sucks", if you understand the subtle distinction. ^_~
It's been an odd week for me. Adam had to fly out to Colorado to tend to some Army stuff on Friday and he's not due back until this upcoming Wednesday. I came up Thursday afternoon after work (work from home rocks my socks off) in order to get a night's worth of cuddling in. He puttered around, getting his house tidied up and packing and all that and I can't remember what I was doing but he decided to go to bed and he said, "I'm going to bed. Don't be forever." which... and I know this is going to sound silly, but it was a "Oh, hey! He -wants- me to come to bed and snuggle with him!" moment. When he headed out the next morning, I asked if he'd mind if I stayed camped out at his apartment and got my work day done and he said sure, no problem.
Well I did that, successfully getting much work done and then I was faced with a decision. I wanted to sleep in the +5 Bed of Sleeping. It is a very good bed, very comfy, and smells strongly of him and me. But I wasn't sure how he'd feel about me -being- there without him. I felt really odd about it. Mama Elf suggested that really he wouldn't mind at all, but I fretted even as I crawled into the bed and settled down to a warm and good sleep. And the next day? I didn't want to go home.
I like my roommates well enough but with all of us home and the dog and various friends and significant others, the place gets cramped, and it has definitely never felt like home. I moved into it, intending it to be a short-term place, close to work, for a few months.. And now I'm going on nearly a year. I rent a room there and keep some stuff in the pantry and fridge, but I don't have a whole lot invested in the place. I spend a lot of time away from it and when I -am- there, I stick to my small room and don't stray outside it, anti-social as I am. The past few weeks I have spent more time at Adam's place than I have at my own and my little desk at work, wedged into the back of the warehouse, feels more like home. It's a very, very -small- world and when I woke up Saturday morning, the idea of driving a couple hours to return to it just... I really didn't want to. I wasn't depressed, but I wanted to hole up in a comfortable place and not talk to anyone. So I stayed at Adam's place, feeling an odd mix of comfortable and trespasser while I did a few hours of work, read a couple books, and scrubbed his kitchen stove, counters, and floor in some weird attempt to pay for my weekend's vacation away from my life.
And Sunday, I prepared to tell him I'd trespassed all over his territory, uninvited and unwelcome. I was braced for the worst when I told him, "Adam, I need to tell you something and I'm worried you're gonna be annoyed and irritated. I spent the weekend hanging out at your place. I know it was wildly inappropriate but I got a lot of work done and I cleaned your kitchen. Don't be mad."
"... are you mad?"
"Uh." he said. "Because you did some cleaning?"
He'd, no kidding, figured I'd spend the weekend at his place, even without him. Because even though he doesn't open his mouth and -talk- to me as much as I'd like, this guy actually knows me pretty well and has a general idea of how I'm going to react to something. And, it would probably do me some good to remember that he isn't me, he isn't as weird as I am, and he definitely doesn't react to things the way I do.
So here I am, snuggled up on the couch watching The Colour of Magic by Terry Pratchett, feeling relieved and welcome and loved, sniffling into my chicken soup.
It's been an odd week for me. Adam had to fly out to Colorado to tend to some Army stuff on Friday and he's not due back until this upcoming Wednesday. I came up Thursday afternoon after work (work from home rocks my socks off) in order to get a night's worth of cuddling in. He puttered around, getting his house tidied up and packing and all that and I can't remember what I was doing but he decided to go to bed and he said, "I'm going to bed. Don't be forever." which... and I know this is going to sound silly, but it was a "Oh, hey! He -wants- me to come to bed and snuggle with him!" moment. When he headed out the next morning, I asked if he'd mind if I stayed camped out at his apartment and got my work day done and he said sure, no problem.
Well I did that, successfully getting much work done and then I was faced with a decision. I wanted to sleep in the +5 Bed of Sleeping. It is a very good bed, very comfy, and smells strongly of him and me. But I wasn't sure how he'd feel about me -being- there without him. I felt really odd about it. Mama Elf suggested that really he wouldn't mind at all, but I fretted even as I crawled into the bed and settled down to a warm and good sleep. And the next day? I didn't want to go home.
I like my roommates well enough but with all of us home and the dog and various friends and significant others, the place gets cramped, and it has definitely never felt like home. I moved into it, intending it to be a short-term place, close to work, for a few months.. And now I'm going on nearly a year. I rent a room there and keep some stuff in the pantry and fridge, but I don't have a whole lot invested in the place. I spend a lot of time away from it and when I -am- there, I stick to my small room and don't stray outside it, anti-social as I am. The past few weeks I have spent more time at Adam's place than I have at my own and my little desk at work, wedged into the back of the warehouse, feels more like home. It's a very, very -small- world and when I woke up Saturday morning, the idea of driving a couple hours to return to it just... I really didn't want to. I wasn't depressed, but I wanted to hole up in a comfortable place and not talk to anyone. So I stayed at Adam's place, feeling an odd mix of comfortable and trespasser while I did a few hours of work, read a couple books, and scrubbed his kitchen stove, counters, and floor in some weird attempt to pay for my weekend's vacation away from my life.
And Sunday, I prepared to tell him I'd trespassed all over his territory, uninvited and unwelcome. I was braced for the worst when I told him, "Adam, I need to tell you something and I'm worried you're gonna be annoyed and irritated. I spent the weekend hanging out at your place. I know it was wildly inappropriate but I got a lot of work done and I cleaned your kitchen. Don't be mad."
"... are you mad?"
"Uh." he said. "Because you did some cleaning?"
He'd, no kidding, figured I'd spend the weekend at his place, even without him. Because even though he doesn't open his mouth and -talk- to me as much as I'd like, this guy actually knows me pretty well and has a general idea of how I'm going to react to something. And, it would probably do me some good to remember that he isn't me, he isn't as weird as I am, and he definitely doesn't react to things the way I do.
So here I am, snuggled up on the couch watching The Colour of Magic by Terry Pratchett, feeling relieved and welcome and loved, sniffling into my chicken soup.
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